It is so sad to lose a friend. I am not talking about having a falling out with someone because if that happens then they really were never a friend. I am referring to life happening and growing apart. I am starting to notice it more and more lately. People I've been friends with for over a decade and I see their number in my cell and I can't think of a thing to talk to them about when I call them because we've missed so much of each other's lives. And that saddens me becuase I've had some great friends and I hate that it's happpened.
I guess it is life but it doesn't make it any easier. It starts with the missed/unanswered calls. Then the only emails/messages you get from them are the mass emails to 20 people and are usually chain mail. From there it moves to hearing news about new happenings from another person, then you realize they forgot (or you forgot) an important date, say like a 10 year wedding anniversary when you were AT the wedding.
I am trying to figure out how to handle a situation. Do I try to reconnect or is it even worth it? Do the once a year meet up thing? I know we all change as we grow and I get that, but I don't like losing people who I actually LIKE in my life...I have enough crazies I can't stand who I can't seem to get away from! It is so hard as an adult to make new friends with the relationships that I have with some of those in my contact list.
Being a grown up stinks sometimes!
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